What a Beautiful Mess
One of the things I love about working with women, especially those in the middle of life, is helping them to realize that it is NEVER too late to turn their wishes into realities. One of the pitfalls of midlife is that we start to lose hope that ________ (fill in the blank) will ever change. Maybe you have struggled with your weight...maybe it’s been all of your life. And you just can’t seem to get it figured out and you think that now--now that you’re 40 something--maybe you never will? There is never a time that it is too late to make progress. I am a type A, impatient person and progress seems to automatically imply “slow and tedious.” Right now, I am 20 pounds heavier than I have ever been. (Thank you, menopause.) And I find that I really hate the bit by bit of healthy weight loss. I like to see my results and the slow melting of fat from my body is just not going to give me visual rewards that I demand. It reminds me of my 13 year old son, Sam. Last year, when we moved to Texas, he was 4’11” and then magically, over the course of just a year, there he was, hovering over me in the kitchen, and I noticed that he had become a full-sized human of 5’6”. I had barely noticed it and and then BAM--he's giant!! That’s the thing about women and weight….we are ALWAYS paying attention...like watching a plant grow. This is the kind of perfection seeking that is exhausting and it drains our minds and our bodies. If we are focused on weight loss, we are putting ourselves in this tedious waiting place. We don't see the change and then we just give up. What if, instead of watching the scale day in and day out, we try to fill our lives and our minds with things of balance and beauty and movement and good food? What if we expend all of our energies on this productive good stuff? How about we abandon the waitng place and get busy LIVING our happy lives?! Wouldn't it be great if you didn't have time to sit and stare at perfection waiting for it to happen? Progress is timeless, it’s patient, it’s full of grace and peace and kindness. Progress is rarely radical and its framework is uniquely fit to each person. Some steps may be bigger and some smaller. How many steps you take, and how fast, well--that depends on you. Your first assignment to crowd out perfection with meaningful progress.
Let’s talk about how I can be of service to you. To book your free consultation visit my website at https://www.cathydunford.com/thecoach or email me at cathy@cathydunford.com.
In other words...stop waiting and start living, my friend.