Part 2-Coaching Solutions to Live By: You’re a Human BEing
Coaching Solution #2: First “Be” Then “Do”
Living Begins in Your Heart and Head: Lasting change, life balance, and personal fulfillment begin in the heart and mind before you jump into action. Actions, strategies, goals, and behaviors are what you DO when you want to make lifestyle changes. What is often overlooked is who you are at your core; what you really want, what you need, and what you value.
Get clear on what you want: Before you take off on an expedition to passionately live your life, coaching brings clarity to where you are going and how you plan to get there. We start with your heart and your head before we jump into action. I often ask clients,
“If you woke up tomorrow and the weight/disease was no longer an issue, who would you be? What would change for you and what would remain the same?”
Recently, after posing that question, a new client responded and said, “I don’t want to talk about my life. All I care about is losing this weight. Just tell me what to do and I will do it.” Like my client, many people want solutions in the form of strategies; especially when it comes to health-related changes. This honest plea for help is driven by cultural norms that suggest that our success is hinged on how well we can dowhat needs to be done. It’s only natural to assume that the solutions are based in an action like; a diet, a cleanse, a detox, an exercise routine, a cooking class, an app, a pill, and in severe cases, a complex and expensive weight loss surgery.
I am not saying that these actions and behaviors aren’t necessary and life-changing, because, when imbedded in your day-to-day, they absolutely will save your life! But what I am saying is that, in every case, jumping into action before you have your heart and your head on board is putting the cart before the horse. If you don’t believe me then examine how many times you have plunged into action, ignoring your heart and your head, only to have your determination to revolutionize your health fizzle out and disappear?
Reconnect with who you are: This loss of momentum isn’t because you aren’t strong, disciplined, or capable; it’s because you got in the driver’s seat and let your fear punch the gas before you were clear on exactly where you were going and how you were going to get there. You were speeding on the road to nowhere and eventually you concede to being lost and give up.
Together we map out your path to real success in making lifestyle changes by getting crystal clear on who you are now by reconnecting you to your strengths, your pride, your deepest assets and values, and your abundant internal resources. We look at where you’ve already been successful, and how you got there. This path outlines what you truly value and what you want for yourself now and in the future.
